Friendship

What people usually do to make a new friend?

It crossed my mind suddenly.How to start a new friendship?What do we usually do to start a friendship?I am used to this kind of stuff.Youth camps,new tuition classes,national service and so on.I have to admit,it's not as easy as you think it is for me.When I was put into a new and strange situation,normally I would keep quiet before I manage to start to feel comfortable.The first move,which is to start a conversation after asking for the names,is really difficult,especially when the person is a passive one.Anyway,after a short while,my real character reveals.I always have the courage to start a conversation but sometimes,it is still VERY awkward.Well,I always start with this.

"Hey,I'm Yi Cze."

Usually,if the person is normal,he/she would respond with a smile and tell me his/her name.A smile would certainly boost my courage.But if the person is a weirdo,he/she would just stop after saying another "hey" to you.If this "hey" comes with a smile,well,I don't mind asking for his/her name.If he/she doesn't,gosh,I would dig a hole and bury my face into it.Hah.

Back to the topic,after the name-asking stage,it is the most challenging part for me.Argh,i should survey before I start this post.Hm,what do I always use to start a conversation?Hah,anyway,I am quite a talkative lady.I remembered some lousy examples,which surprisingly works...

1."Where are you from?I am from Alor Star.Is it your first time taking part in such camps?Are you coming with any friends?I am coming here alone."It seems impossible to open up a conversation,but well,thank God,it works.Lucas led the talk after that.And bla bla bla...and suddenly,we are friends.

2.Observe.Well,there is always something to be our topic.

"I saw you coming out from room D.I am in room D too!".This works with a girl during the youth summer camp in 2008.Hah.

Ken was the first guy that talked to me in the character building class.He ise this technique too.He started with a weird question after asking for my name."Do you know how to speak Chinese?"  "What?Er, I know."  "Oh,I thought you don't know as I saw you wrote everything in English,including your diary."  "Oh.Hm.It's easier,and faster." and because of him,I started mixing with the Malay friends in the class in my group,who were teasing both of us.

Well,if I really do not know what to do.I'll just keep quiet until the ice breaking ceremony.Well,just follow what popping out in my mind.All I need to do is,telling myself no need to be shy,if it doesn't work out,I wouldn't have to see him/her again after this camp.Haha.Believe me,it works.The most important key is stop being shy or fearing of embarrassment.

For me,what is more difficult is to know more about the new friend you make with.To form the strong bond of friendship,we will have to get through many things together.Only those who are sincere and put enough effort will end up being a true friends.It take years to really know a person.I used to hang out with a group of new friend,I thought it would work and I would get another group of close friends.But sadly,after mixing with them for some time,I realize we don't share the sense of belongings as i felt with my old friends.We are still friends but our bond of friendship is only very weak.I guess.

These years,I began to realize that,I grow more mature and define friendship in another way now.Perhaps it has something to do with those incidents I've been through.

I used to have lots of friends during my lower form.I didn't mind whether they're sincere or not.As long as we shared some common interest and happiness together,i was happy.

Now,frankly speaking,I do not think I have many close friends which I could really share my problems.Especially after those incident,I begin to manage my friend lists and I find out that there is really not much that I could trust.I am upset with this fact but on the same moment,I am glad and thankful to God as He makes me understand the value of a true friend and I am able to cherish the very few true friends I have.And,sooner after that,I get some new friends.They bring some good changes to my life.With their help,I am able to see how good is God and feel God's presence in my life besides finding out what is good for me.Benny,who is very patient and has kindly helped me a lot in looking for God's words,I know him in my trip to china.It is really wonderful how God has arranged to make people meet and develop friendship.I totally agree with Minn about his.Thank God for your wonderful arrangement.

 This is a nice quote i found online.wish you like it

.“Truly great friends are hard to find, difficult to leave, and impossible to forget."

 “A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are.”

*I am still trying to improve my language to produce a better post.^^*